Living Victoriously

Who Are You And What Kind Of Person Are You Searching For?

Do you have amnesia and don't remember who you are, where you come from, and where you're going?

Those are very good questions and pertinent ones.  You see, before you can know who you are looking for or what kind of man or woman you want in your life, you need to know who YOU are. 

Are there things in your life that holds you back from being yourself?  Work on that first so that you can be yourself with others.  If not, eventually your real self will come out and it is better that it shows when a person is first getting to know you than when you are in a long term relationship or marriage.  It is being honest with yourself and with them so that they also are informed of who and what kind of person they are with.

Take some time to think about it... WHO ARE YOU?  Are you allowing your past to decide who you will be or are YOU deciding what  kind of person you want to be.  It isn't anyone else's decision but yours, not your mother's, father's, lover's, sister's, brother's, or teacher's.  It is YOURS alone!

Do you know what you want for yourself?  Take the time to stop and think about that... think about your future.  You want to figure that out first before involving yourself with someone who may not be able to share that desire or goal or who cannot support you in it.

You see, you have to know who you are and what you are looking for first so that you can begin straining through people who just aren't your match and so that you know your "type".  You don't want to get down the road and then realize who you are and what you want and find that you've chosen to love someone who you now can't stand or vice versa.

Question:  How do I figure out who I am?

Answer:  The best way is to remember where you came from and the constructive lessons learned.  Think about who God says you are also and where He says you came from and where He says you are headed.  Think about the positive influences in your life and the people that caused you to be a better you just by being around them.  Think about the trials that you've gone through... you came THROUGH those trials.  Take time to really search within yourself of why you behave the way you do.  Think about your likes and dislikes, your plans and goals for your future.  If you don't have any, it is time to make some.  Think about what your weaknesses are and your strengths and then work on those weaknesses and strengthen those strengths.

The bottom line is YOU decide who you are and what you want out of this life.  ONLY YOU can decide what kind of man or woman you want.  So, figure it out and then ... DECIDE!... and then walk in that decision with confidence.

Decide... Act... Change your life!

Good luck on your search for a long lasting relationship!