It is no wonder that we have one mouth and 2 ears. We should listen twice as much as we speak. But, when we speak, we should know how to speak so that those who hear, including ourselves, may be uplifted and encouraged instead of insulted broken down and crushed.
Which would you prefer? You choose.
Example 1:
A man comes home after a hard days work and as he enters the door, his wife lights into him. Why are you 15 minutes late coming home! You work too hard and never want to spend time with me! My clothes are old, I need new clothes, can’t you earn more money so I can get them! Look at this house we live in, it is too small, it isn’t what the Joneses live in! Why can’t we have a car like theirs!
Example 2:
A man comes home after a hard days work and as he enters the door, his wife lights him up with a smile. How was your day honey? You must have worked long and hard. I missed you. I dressed up just for you. I thank God for our home and car because I know that many people don’t have that blessing. Thank you for working so hard.
When a man OR woman comes home from work, they are usually tired and the last thing they want is to be complained to. They know their financial status and that there isn’t enough money to buy nice things and the old things are getting older and tattered. They don’t need to be reminded. That is why they are working so hard.
They want peace and quite for a while to be able to wind down. If you approach them with an attitude and a problem, they are not going to be as open to talk about it as soon as they walk through the door and especially not when it deals with arguing as the way of speaking.
Give them their wind down time and pick another time to talk about the problems. Speak peacefully and positive to them, speaking words of thankfulness and appreciation and love.
As you do this, you will change your relationship for the better and have a more positive state of mind.
Join me again this week as we go over "How To Speak".