Facing Fear - Part 4

The Last 5 Steps In Being Proactive To Overcoming Our Fears. 

* Ending Unhealthy

Personal Relationships

Are you in a relationship that is unhealthy?  i.e.:  abusive, co-dependent, disrespectful, etc…  You need to get out of those types of relationships because they only bring you down and causes a negative outlook on your state of mind.  Of course, some relationships, like marriage, may just need a tweak in it, so you and your spouse will need to make some very necessary and important changes to get rid of the destructiveness in the relationship.  At times this may cause for marraige counseling.  Any abusive relationship should be cut-off.

* Making Important Habit Changes

Sometimes what we do habitually makes a negative impact on our outcome in life.  Instead of just stopping or getting rid of a bad habit, form a good habit to replace it.  Otherwise, it will be more difficult to have victory over that negative habit.  Also, sometimes the habit is not bad but it is just not positively productive for you.  In that case, you will still need to change it to fit you so that positive thinking and positive actions will be the result.

* Realizing That Change Is Not Your Enemy But Can Be Your Friend

I had trouble with change.  Not only because it was going to be hard but because I would have to step out of my comfort zone and deal with the unknown.  There would be some instability and thus it caused fear of change in my mind.  Change is not your enemy.  Change means that you have an opportunity for something better.  A better job, making a better living, a better home, better physical health, a better life.  Be willing to change for the better.

* Pursuing Goals And Dreams

It is a sorry and boring life for someone who doesn’t have goals and dreams.  They have an emptiness that is there that cannot be filled.  If you haven’t made a list of short-term and long-term dreams and goals, do so right now.  Write them on paper so that in six months, you can look back on them and hold yourself accountable of whether you have taken the necessary steps to begin fulfilling those dreams and goals that you have.  We must always have something that we can strive for even if it is only striving to be a better person and setting up goals to get there.  Want to live a certain lifestyle, in a certain house, driving a certain car, surrounding yourself with certain people, having a certain spiritual walk, certain job, certain outlook on life?  Write it down, speak it outloud and then pursue it.

*Behavioral Action

In conquering fear, it is all about making bold and positive decisions for yourself and converting them into a behavioral action that will cause you to take positive steps in the right directions toward being victorious in what you do.  In order to do that, we must be proactive in overcoming our fears.

Join me Friday as we cover the last part in being proactive to overcoming fear.  Until then, be strong, be courageous, and be willing to face your fears in order to change your state of mind thus changing your life.



Facing Fear - Part 3

Some of the steps necessary to evolve from a fear-based approach to a proactive, self-confident move forward are listed below.

* Managing fear – I want to share an embarrassing story with my readers. 

I do well with most creepy crawlers and critters and flying things.  However, MOTHS are my enemy.  I had become so afraid of them that it was detrimental to my health... SERIOUSLY... I did anything to get away from them.  Years ago I had been bound to a wheelchair and unable to support myself on my own 2 legs without assistance and one day as we were moving into the city... yes I lived in the country... I grabbed my mop doll hanging outside of my country home.  I shook it off and brought it into the van.  I proceeded to get into the van and buckled up the sorry excuse for a seat belt that I had.  The seatbelt didn't lock to prevent forward motion.  Well, as I was about to put the car in reverse to go down a steep hill, all of a sudden, a BABY moth flew out of the mop doll.  The irrational behaviour of mine, because of the fear, caused me to open my door and jump out of the van.  Well, next thing I know, I am hanging by that wretched seatbelt outside of the van in mid air unable to touch ground and unable to pull myself back in and all I could do was cry hysterically.  And even if I touched the ground, I would have been injured by the gravel road since I couldn't stand unassisted or run.  My daughter and others that were in the other car automatically knew that it was a bug, and they probably knew that it was a moth or a spider, which were my greatest fears that would bring that type of reaction.  They didn't even have to ask what it was, they knew.  I had to get assistance to get back into the van AFTER they cleared the baby moth out and took the mop doll into their car instead.

We must not let fear master us but we must manage it until we conquer it so as to not give it power over us or become our master.

* Making difficult and bold choices

Sometimes we make choices out of fear only because they are difficult, which shouldn’t be done because it usually isn’t a wise choice.  Instead, we must step out of our comfort zone and be bold to make the decisions that are necessary and best for us, even if we are afraid in dealing with what we will have to face.   50% of our fears that we have never come to fruition.

* Taking risks

At times you we will need to take risks, not unnecessary or life threatening risks… i.e. bungy jumping.   I mean risks that may be required for you to have a better quality of life and to live with a new state of mind.   For example: you may need to change jobs, schools, homes, make new friends that are different in type compared to your old friends, etc.  Do whatever it takes to be a better you.

* Being ready, willing and

able to face conflict

Since we are not an island unto ourselves, there will naturally be some kind of conflict that will develop between people.  Be ready, willing and able to face the conflict, not to fight the people, but to face the conflict that will occur.  Be ready, willing, able to work together to find a positive solution to a problem that you may have with someone or something.

* Developing a proactive attitude toward difficulties in life

When difficulties arise, instead of allowing them to paralyze you with fear, or causes you to be irrational in your behavior, be proactive in your attitude.  Do what is necessary that will allow you to overcome them.  If we don’t have difficulties then we will not grow. Just remember this… DIFFICULTIES are CHALLENGES that can be changed into VICTORIES!

Join me Wednesday as we cover the last 5 steps in being proactive to overcoming fear.  Until then, be strong, be courageous, and be willing to face your fears in order to change your state of mind.